What do we do when things don’t go as planned? When you think you have figured it all out but somehow everything gets altered. When what you thought was going to happen and what is occurring in actuality is completely different. We don’t always get to live the exact life we want but with appreciation, acceptance, and perseverance we can live fully.
Initially it is hard to get over the idea you set in your mind. To know all your dedicated planning has to change. Why does it feel like such a hindrance when we have to adjust?
Your mind is set, you know how you want to execute and have no doubt you will succeed in getting there, as long as you stick with the strategy you laid out for yourself. Then, without warning, you are thrown a curve ball and are not sure what the heck to do with it. Do I sulk in it? Let it eat at me ‘till I feel worthless? No, STOP, get a mitt and throw that sucker back!
You have to assess the severity for the need to change your plan. What happened? Is it an unexpected health issue? Loss of job? An ending to a relationship?
Life happens, it’ll throw some surprises at you, how you react is what will make the difference. Reconfigure whatever you have to and aim to find the positive in an unexpected path.
At some point we have to learn there are going to be plenty of detours throughout our lifetime, being able to face them, accept the change, and thrive anyway is what will really propel you to the next level. Plan for things to be unplanned. If you don’t like the unexpected development, adjust, find a way to make it work for you.
Don’t allow it to consume you and make it impossible for you to find the joy. There is always a reason, ALWAYS.
People fail when they are unable to see that planning should be used as a guide, it’s what you want to happen but not always what needs to, nothing is ever set in stone. That goes for having a life plan, to planning a trip, or even scheduling your day. Be flexible. Be ready to conquer whatever is thrown at you. Be okay with the detour. Know that there is beauty in even the worse of days, even when you have to search to find it.
So things didn’t go as planned, the next move is up to you. You have the ability to decide. If it is something that is not in your control, figure out what can you do to help ease through it, look for the silver lining. Don’t get consumed in the things you wanted, focus on the new things you get to learn.
We don’t always get to live the exact life we want but with appreciation, acceptance, and perseverance we can live fully. It’s not easy to have no choice but to adjust your sails. Stay composed, figure it out, and know that it’ll all be okay. Sometimes the very best moments happen when things don’t go as planned.