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THIS WEEKS 10 BEST POSITIVE QUOTES/ AFFIRMATIONS (4)

THIS WEEKS 10 BEST POSITIVE QUOTES/ AFFIRMATIONS (4)

Where do you see yourself in a week, month, or year? What are you going to do to get there? The first step is keeping a positive mind and immersing yourself in a you can do it attitude. Affirm you’re worth it and be fearless in your pursuit. Be passionate, work hard, and don’t give up!

  1. Where you invest your love you invest your life.
  2. You are GOOD enough, SMART enough, BEAUTIFUL enough, and STRONG enough. Believe it and never let insecurity run your life.
  3. Life always offers you a second chance…it’s called tomorrow.
  4. Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness.
  5. Mistakes are proof that you’re trying
  6. You can’t count on people to always cheer you on and keep you built up. Learn to encourage yourself.
  7. Commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do, long after the mood you said it in has left you.
  8. “There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” – Aldous Huxley
  9. “Stop expecting others to act first, be the one who makes a positive change.” -Leon Brown
  10. “Do not be embarrassed by your failures, learn from them and start again.”- Richard Branson

Whatever you are pursuing. Keep going!

Life is too crazy wonderful not too!

 

 

How To Give Your Kids the Gift of Confidence

How To Give Your Kids the Gift of Confidence

Raising your child is the biggest responsibility you will ever have. It’s not only about loving them, you have to guide them and give them the ability to love themselves. Every parent wants their children to gain the tools to be their best self. Taking the time to raise confident children will provide them a positive self-image.

By working hard to teach your children that maximum effort will help them reach their goals, and the tenacity to understand setbacks are learnable moments, they will learn that the only limits they have are the ones they place on themselves.

As a  parent it’s your job to instill confidence within your children. It is essential to give them the ability to stand tall and be happy with who they are. You have to take the steps to increase their fortitude to make decisions and encourage them to communicate what they’re feeling. When their morale is developed they won’t feel the need to follow others and know that mistakes are okay.

One of the most crucial things parents can do is teach kids to love themselves. You have to give your children the power to excel and it begins with their confidence.

There are nine pivotal things we can implement with our children to give them unstoppable confidence.

  1. One, Remind your kids what they are good at. Each child has a gift. Whether it’s drawing, kicking a soccer ball, dancing, being loving, or super funny make sure you tell them. Kid’s thrive when they are given positive feedback. It increases their self-esteem immensely and assists them in recognizing their talents. When you cheer on your kids you boost their confidence instantly.
  2. Next, teach them it’s okay to not always win as long as they put in 100%. Kid’s often feel like failures if they aren’t at the top. Their spirit is easily shot and they’ll want to stop whatever it is they aren’t exceptional at. It’s important that they know they won’t be the best at everything- but giving 100% is what matters. Focusing on their ability to perform at their highest level will give them crucial fundamental skills as they grow older. Not being number one at everything is okay- don’t let them give up on themselves. They will eventually find that one passion that feeds their heart and nourishes their confidence.
  3. Write them notes. Put them in their bathroom, lunchboxes, folders, on their place mats, or even in their shoes. Write a simple I love you, wish them a great day, or tell them they’re awesome! Finding these little unexpected gems let’s your child know they are special and you’re thinking about them. They will treasure your thoughtfulness- plus it may find them right when they need their day brightened. From your love alone your child gains assurance and security.
  4. Be involved. Kid’s need their parents. It’s crucial for them to be able to talk to you and feel accepted. They need the guarantee you’ll attend their concert or game. They want the confidence of knowing you’ll be at their class party or be home to tuck them in. Being involved with what is going on in their world will let them know you care and want to be there. Take that extra step to actively be a part of their life not just raise them.
  5. Have a mantra. At an early age have kids repeat a mantra to themselves. Whenever they need an extra boost or feel less confident they can refer back to this statement. As they repeat it they’ll remember all the things they’ve accomplished through this mantra. You can create whatever one you want as long as it motivates them. A good one could be: “I believe in myself, I believe in myself, I believe in myself.” Anytime they feel like they need an edge to conquer a challenge teach them to close their eyes, focus, and repeat their saying over and over. Kids need to be taught to stand on their own. This is a technique that can help them when they need a little push.
  6. Teach them hard work will translate to achievement. Tell them to work hard, to not give up, and believe they can do it. Let them know it’s not always simply attainable but working hard will eventually lead to success. Remind them most things that are worth it don’t come easy but the effort will pay off. One day all the hard work will get them to their desired goal- their perseverance will be instrumental in them achieving it.
  7. Let your child make decisions. Your child has to learn to make judgments on their own. Allow them to make mistakes and learn from them. Although a misstep is often looked at negatively it is a learning experience for a child (anyone, really). Go over it with them, see what they took from the outcome. What was their point of view? Right or wrong they have to navigate their way and determine what works. If parents don’t allow their children to make choices they will never gain confidence in their capabilities.
  8. Let them talk. Give them the benefit to explain what happened, what they want to occur, or how they feel. This gives them the tool to communicate confidently. Parents can have the habit of wanting to take over and control a situation. Give your child the capacity to articulate their thoughts and feelings accurately.
  9. Provide DAILY positive reinforcement. Tell them good job- give them a pat on the back. Guide them along the way when needed. Celebrate their individuality and their expression of who they are. When a child knows they have the support of their parents their confidence will be secure and will grow consistently. Most of all tell your children you love them without conditions daily.

It’s your privileged duty to give your children the power to excel and it begins with  building their confidence. Raising kids is not easy. Most days you’ll be exhausted. Sometimes you’ll even question if you’re doing it right. Our most precious gifts are our children. You have to provide them with the confidence to be who they are, to discover the world, and live to their fullest potential.

10 OF THE BEST POSITIVE QUOTES/ AFFIRMATIONS THIS WEEK (3)

10 OF THE BEST POSITIVE QUOTES/ AFFIRMATIONS THIS WEEK (3)

What a week it’s been! We have a new President elect and emotions are running high across the board. It’s important that we continue to be positive and stay focused on growing as individuals. Every day affirm what you want from life and pursue it fully. Be passionate and stay determined to strive toward your goals, affirm you are worth it and keep going!

10 of this week’s best positive quotes and affirmations:

  1. Don’t quit, suffer now, & live the rest of your life a champion- Muhammad Ali
  2. Discouragement & failure are the surest stepping stones to success.
  3. You may have not gone where you intended to go, but you’ll end up where you need to be.
  4. Sometimes the smallest act of love can take up the biggest space in someone’s heart.
  5. Find peace within yourself.
  6. Define success on your own terms, achieve it by your own rules, & build a life you’re proud to live. – Anne Sweeney
  7. Positive people also have negative thoughts, they just don’t let it control them.
  8. Count your blessings, not your problems
  9. Don’t look back, you’re not  going that way.
  10. The strongest people aren’t always the people who win, but the people who didn’t give up when they lose.

Life can come at us fast. We can get overwhelmed and feel as though there are no answers. You have the ability to choose, change your thoughts, and take action. Affirm what you want and go after it. YOU CAN DO IT.

Keep going! Life is too crazy wonderful not to!!

Five Daily Habits to become a Happier You

Five Daily Habits to become a Happier You

Happiness. Love. Compassion. Power. What does it take to become a happier you? What adjectives describe a happy person? For me, some of them are strength, confidence, and love. To you, it can be anything that fills your heart with happiness. There are key things you can practice in your daily life to make you happier. You have to make a conscious decision to take an active approach on loving yourself more. It’s time you decide to find appreciation in the small things and allow yourself to improve. Take the steps to ensure your happiness, it’ll make the world around you brighter.

  1. First, stop being so hard on yourself. Allow yourself to make mistakes and appreciate the lesson learned. Don’t hold grudges against yourself for not being or doing what you think you should. Many of us have the habit of being our worse critics. Look at where you are and where you want to go-then plan how to get there.
  2. Secondly, love the life you live. No matter what we are going through or what hurdles we may be facing we have the ability to take the steps to change it. Appreciate what you have gone through. We each are given our own individual path for a reason. Explore what makes you, you. What are you good at? What do people often come to you for? What makes you happy? Find your reason and appreciate you have the power to alter your life.
  3. Third, take a deep breath. There will be bad days. That’s all part of the process of improving yourself and finding your happiness. Know that every day will get better as long as we push through. Don’t give up.
  4. Look at the good and bad. We have to be prepared to look at the good, the bad, and the ugly in order to really find a happier us. It can be difficult to take a honest look at yourself. There won’t always be things we like. If we aren’t willing to look at what we don’t like we will only continue to fool ourselves. On the same note, it’s important to have a balance by recognizing and appreciating your strengths.
  5. Lastly, Give yourself a pep-talk daily. Tell yourself you’re freaking awesome. Remind yourself you can do it. Don’t let yourself forget anything is possible. We never know where our journey will take us unless we go after it with a vengeance. Stay focused. Don’t feel guilty about pushing yourself toward a happier you. Tell yourself daily you’re worth it.

We all have individual characteristics that make us special. Whether you’re creative, caring, athletic, funny, honest, and so on. Remember your good qualities as you gradually make progress in liking yourself more. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses will allow you to accept your truths and appreciate who you are.

I decided to find my happy. It was time I took an active role in my own happiness. The craziest thing happened, it was these small steps that made a huge impact. I have to implement each daily and I can not cheat myself. This is for me, after all. Remember it’s a process. The fact you even got this far in this article shows you are serious about being a happier you and loving yourself. Keep going!!

You got this, you totally got this!

10 OF THE BEST POSITIVE QUOTES/ AFFIRMATIONS THIS WEEK (2)

10 OF THE BEST POSITIVE QUOTES/ AFFIRMATIONS THIS WEEK (2)

Hello!

Another week of great quotes and affirmation to share!

Everyday it is important to affirm the view you want from your life. No matter what it is, from love to career goals pursue it fully! Affirm what you want and positively go after it. One step at a time, with full determination, and focused on attaining what you wish.

Here’s a roundup of this weeks best quotes and affirmations. I hope they will inspire, motivate, or provide perspective for those who desire it.

  1. “People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln
  2. Be more concerned with your character than your reputation.
  3. Sometimes you have to walk away from what you want to find what you deserve.
  4. The mind is everything. What you think you become.
  5. Love is always a demonstration – not just a set of words or a feeling.
  6. Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.
  7. “You may never know what results come of your actions, but if you do nothing, there will be no results.” – Gandhi
  8. “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
  9. To win, You must Beat Fear.
  10. Talking about our problems is our greatest addiction. Break the habit. Talk about the joys.

Whatever you are pursuing. Keep going!

Life is too crazy wonderful not too!

How one moment can define your life

How one moment can define your life

One moment. A Single choice. A sole action can alter the course of your life forever. Everyone has defining moments in their life, the metaphorical fork in the road, the decision to go left or right. Whether we realize it or not, while we live day by day, each choice shapes our life. Sometimes those moments are glaringly clear. You leave a job, end a relationship, move to a new city, etc. What about those ones that you never expected to change everything? The instant choice that alters your life permanently. One moment can be powerful enough to change the course of your life forever.

What many of us fail to realize is not all defining moments are huge and explosive. They aren’t always clearly spelled out and in our face. Sometimes our moments happen unknowingly. By just living, deciding, and taking action we are constructing our lives. We are taking an active role in how our life plays out. As I look back I see clear moments that made me who I am today.

These occurrences begin in childhood. I can remember very specific moments that changed the course of my life. One very clear memory is when I was in sixth grade going into seventh. To welcome the soon to be seventh graders the school would hold a dance. During this time I was confronted by a girl that was one of my supposed “best friends” for the last two years. This girl made everyone feel so special when they were her best friend. The issue was, every week she would have a different best friend and pit other girls against the person she chose as an outsider for that time.  

I gained a lot of unneeded insecurities in those years and lost my trust toward “friends”.  During our confrontation I was the enemy of the week. She walked up to me during the dance and yelled “Do you have a problem with me!?” I was shocked at her aggression and was embarrassed by the circle of people around her. With just as much attitude as hers I replied back “Yea, I do!” she angrily asks “Why!?” I had several thoughts in that moment: Why is she acting like this, why can’t we just dance, this isn’t a friend, and so on. All that came out was “ because you’re evil!” I then quickly walked away and tried to enjoy the rest of my night.

I’d like to note I am aware my behavior was just as negative as hers.  I would NEVER want my children to behave this way. That is a definite regret from that memory. I could of held myself up to a better standard. I learned a lot about myself and how that made me feel acting that way.

What I didn’t comprehend was a lot happened from that moment. One, she was shocked and at the time I took it as her not caring. What really happened is she got hurt and started to cry. I heard (later) she called her Dad to pick her up. Two, we didn’t talk again till we were juniors in high school. Even then we were never truly friends again. We acted like we didn’t even know each other and still do.

One moment, one single action changed who my friends were forever. There was a group of us that would hang out and I removed myself from all of them except one or two. As an adult I don’t talk to any of them, I only interact with them through social media very distantly. Although I “lost” friendships it forced me to gain new ones.

Entering into a new school and faze of my life I met a lot of new people. That one moment made it possible for me to be open to new friends. I was cautious to who I trusted and became close too. The friends I made in that time had to be accepting of who I was without conditions as I would be to them. I have many of those friends till this day. Two of my very best friends, that I consider family,  I met that year.

Sometimes a defining moment starts off feeling overwhelming and impossible. I remember questioning myself a lot. In that “friendship” I never felt good about myself. I thought negatively about who I was and tried to do what that friend wanted instead of being myself. I never felt good enough.  I  learned so much about what a friend was not suppose to be and what I was willing to deal with. Although, I wish I would’ve handled myself better, I do believe the outcome benefited me in the long run.

One moment can be powerful enough to change the course of your life forever. Looking back to see how you got to where you are can provide such valuable insight. I always thought of that memory as a simple moment in my life but it was clearly a defining moment. As an adult woman with three kids I can use my experience to guide my children about friendship and loving themselves.